Comments on: Someday, You’ll Understand

By: IncidentalDomestic

IncidentalDomestic — Thu, 05 May 2011 23:54:12 +0000

Hear, Hear!!!

We have experienced this many times with my son — he’s always been a bit big for his age, so people always assume he’s older. When someone is staring like that, I usually end up saying something like “OH I KNOW, RIGHT?! This 8-year-old boy is SO CRAZY! I’m so glad he’s having a blast, though, this aquarium [or wherever] is AMAZING, isn’t it?”

I just am not very good at sitting by and watching someone give anyone a passive aggressive dirty look without saying something about it. Especially when it involves a “look down their nose” kind of person. What can I say, my filter’s broken. Don’t have a lot of tolerance for this sort of thing.

Great post!!

By: mep

mep — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 18:28:52 +0000

Excellent post, one that I need to remember as a mother of small kids (though, as a former ninth grade teacher, I think I’m pretty patient with adolescents) who will some day be big kids.

Good advice in general, right, that every kid is somebody’s “baby.” Thanks.

By: Kami

Kami — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 19:26:35 +0000

SO true! And also a really good reminder for me, I have trouble with that awkward stage. Thanks for the kick in the head!

By: Cindy Fey

Cindy Fey — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 15:58:54 +0000

LOVE this.

By: Tracey Becker

Tracey Becker — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 12:20:19 +0000

You guys made me smile this morning. Thanks for the wonderful comments. They made my day!

By: Cathy Jo Cress

Cathy Jo Cress — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 02:43:31 +0000

As a grandmother of grandsons, and mother of two daughters- I was shocked by boys . They are the stereotypes of boys- wanting to blow everything up, pushing and shoving and hitting – just for play. I have watched my grandsons at 11 on the cusp of their voice’s changing , and as you said – just a giant version of their two year old self.
Cathy Jo Cress
http://momlovesyoubest.wordpress.com/

By: Crystal

Crystal — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 00:31:49 +0000

I am so sad and upset by this this, what a horrible thing to have to experience. Did she notice your hurt? I’m not sure if I could have kept my mouth shut even if it was to just say “he is your future”. Well your right, she’ll understand someday. Your son is lucky to have you for a mother!

By: Tiffany@Lattes&Life

Tiffany@Lattes&Life — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 22:47:45 +0000

*sniff* So true. And so from the heart. There is a huge HUGE difference between an awkward tween/teen growing into themselves and a flat out rude/unruly teenager. I think many people forget that.

By: Dwana

Dwana — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 22:19:26 +0000

I cried! (nasty hormones) Great post, you hit it right on the head, Tracey!!!

By: Carabee

Carabee — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:49:29 +0000

I try to be understanding of all parents, regardless of how old their children are, because as you say, too soon I will be in their shoes and I can only hope there will be someone smiling at me as I try to navigate the world with my child rather than frowning.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 12:07:21 +0000

And why am I not surprised that someone agreed with the person you directed this post at? Ugh… I hate parents like that.

I LOVE this post!! It’s not “boys will be boys” it’s children will be children. I feel so sorry for the children of people who can’t or refuse to understand that. If you don’t like my kids’ excitement, then walk away. It’s the ZOO, for heaven’s sake – he’s SUPPOSED to be excited! GAH!!

Oh and for the record, my children are frequently complimented on their behavior and manners in public. By complete strangers. I expect appropriate behavior from them, but I also expect them to be kids. Cuz, um… they are.

Sorry, Tracey, I’m not as nice as you are.

By: Stacia

Stacia — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 04:44:14 +0000

Oh, this is wonderful! And it’s a point of view I hadn’t given much thought to and will now be more empathetic because of. I love the idea that every awkward teen and tween is somebody’s baby and one day will be my own babies.