I was at the Hollywood Palms Cinema in Naperville (which, if you’ve never been, I highly suggest visiting for your next movie outing. “Unique” doesn’t even BEGIN to describe how totally cool each theater is…) last week to see the movie Hall Pass. Now, I’m not here to critique the movie. It was funny and I enjoyed it and you probably will too. Or maybe not. I don’t know you very well; what type of humor do you find “funny?”
I AM here, however to make a comment on the recurring theme that presents itself in so many movies, books, tv shows and magazines regarding women and sex. The theme being, naturally, that we don’t like it. That we’d do just about anything, including pretending to be asleep, lying about chores to finish, and groaning when our significant other gives us the old wink and nudge at the end of the day.
Am I really the only one who enjoys sex?
Am I truly a minority being that I, at nearly 35 years of age*, still am and have ALWAYS been ready and willing to eagerly lock the bedroom door any time, any day, and (blushes) any place? Is my husband “lucky” as the movies would like us to believe?
I don’t think so.
I do NOT believe that women should be so easily written off the field of being Sexually Interested. Yes, I’ve read the studies where we get the facts of percentages comparing libidos and sexual thoughts and blah blah blah. Science schmience. I know that there are plenty of women whose sex drives are very low and who actually DO do the above mentioned evasive maneuvers to avoid the act. But aren’t movies and books and other medias that assume that ALL 30+ women are sexually frigid a huge part of the problem? By repeatedly creating characters who would rather knit than “get busy”, aren’t they just reinforcing the notion that this behavior is normal, acceptable and actually “funny”?
Maybe Hollywood should spin the focus. Do their fellow men and women a favor and produce more movies that portray women who are just as sexually interested as their partners. Show women that are involved with men (or women) who take THEIR needs seriously. Show male partners that care about the woman, the relationship, and the woman’s role in their sex life. Portray romance that exists not only in the infancy of the relationship, but also many, many years down the road.
Because we exist, Hollywood! It’s not a myth and I am not a phenomenon.
My name is Tracey and I Like Sex.
*Next month! Send chocolate. And wine. Lots and lots of wine…
Category: Love and Marriage