Accepting our children

| February 16, 2014 | Comments (0)

Headshot 200 x 800Loving our children is not always easy. Our children are only projections of who we are. Sometimes their fabric from us is genetic, other times it is purely environmental – families come in all forms, shapes and sizes. If one carefully considers what our children actually are to us,  one might have to weigh in on the fact that their essence, in the final analysis, equates to being individuals. They have their own thoughts, wishes and drives for their lives. Loving our children seems like it needs to be unconditional, no matter what the personal cost, right?

What if your child is not exactly who you planned? Do you still love them? Are they still your family? Would you still be a loving parent?

Susan Berland, who is fiercely committed to guiding people back to a loving, accepting relationship when there are struggles surrounding their gay, bisexual or transgender child has had years of experience guiding parents and their kids to communicate effectively, trust one another and accept one another where and as they are.

The Chicago Moms was lucky enough to have interviewed Susan Berland before this past holiday season. What we learned was such a healthy response to accepting those we love that we encourage you to visit her site and reach out should you, or anyone you love, have the need.

When a child “comes out”, Susan shared, many may find it hard to embrace their child because they may feel their child has now failed to meet their expectation. She emphasized that there are skills that can be learned too, as it is her “fondest hope to get as many people who need it to acceptance and understanding”.

Susan is certified as a Professional Co-Active Coach, also known as a Life Coach, since 1996. She can, in as few as six private sessions, coach LGBT kids and/or their parents to progress in building bridges back to loving families.

Susan as a wife, a mother, and grandmother, has two sons, one gay and one straight. She adores her two beautiful grandsons who are “growing up way too fast!”

She shares that her son came out to when he was 20. While she was not surprised, Susan admits it took a while to adjust because she just needed a little time to “readjust MY expectations for his life”.

You can find more about Susan Berland at Download you complimentary copy of the A.C.C.E.P.T.™ Manifesto to start building a bridge to acceptance and understanding.

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